Curbside Musings: 1959 Ford Galaxie – On Becoming Stanley Roper

1959 Ford Galaxie. Boystown, Chicago, Illinois. Sunday, February 11, 2024.

This past March marked the first month since August of 2012 in which I had returned to my hometown of Flint, Michigan twice.  Last month was bookended by two trips, the first of which was mainly to watch a new documentary film (Remembering Flint Central) about my long-closed high school.  The second trek was to participate in a celebration for a favorite, former teacher and also a significant birthday for one of my best friends, someone I’ve known since our fifth grade year at our gifted elementary school.  There had been no formal party plans for my friend, who I’ll call Veronica, but that Saturday ended up being such a fun, impromptu evening with just her, her husband, and a handful of other friends, most of whom had known each other since at least the beginning of high school.

1959 Ford Galaxie. Boystown, Chicago, Illinois. Sunday, February 11, 2024.

Veronica didn’t seem thrilled with being faced with this birthday, at least at first.  This is fair, and our feelings are our feelings, even if I think she’s really beautiful and has only become more accomplished with time.  I remember having had different reactions to my own significant birthdays throughout the years.  As I continue to approach that same milestone myself, I look back at the utter ridiculousness of having thought of myself as “old” when I had turned thirty.

I have learned the mental hack of projecting into the future and looking back at myself at my current age.  Stated another way, if and when I get to my late 60s, I’m sure I’ll see my current self as seeming and feeling like such a young dude.  Why shouldn’t I just feel that way now and continue to fully embrace these times?  I’m mentally sharp, independently mobile, a valued worker and employee, and still young enough to do and say the occasional foolish thing and mostly get away with it.  Thankfulness for the win!

1959 Ford Galaxie brochure page, as sourced from www.oldcarbrochures.org.

To be clear, though, I did get what Veronica was saying.  It remains to be seen how I’ll actually feel about it once I also hit the big five-oh.  Our friend Nadine, who was in the same classes as Veronica and me from the fifth grade on, had such a great perspective on being in this stage of life.  Without saying anything to invalidate the way Veronica felt about her birthday, Nadine talked about the beauty of just not giving a s*** at this age about so many things that once seemed oh-so-important, years ago.  As we all ate slices of legendary, Michigan-specialty Bill Knapp’s chocolate cake bought from the bakery at Meijer that day, Nadine announced that from there on out, her philosophy was simply to become Helen Roper from the Three’s Company television franchise.  Before she said this, I hadn’t thought it possible for me to love Nadine any more than I already did.

Title card from "The Ropers", as sourced from IMDb.

For those unfamiliar with this character (which I will forgive for readers outside the U.S.), and to simplify, Helen Roper was a colorful, eclectic landlady who wore flowy, formless caftans and chunky jewelry that seemed like throwbacks even by the standards of the late ’70s.  She was light, breezy, maternal, and hilarious.  Together with her husband, Stanley – an uptight skinflint with seemingly no interest in her whatsoever – she ran an apartment complex in Santa Monica, California (before the Ropers moved and got their own show for a season).  Stanley also wore hideous polyester shirts and slacks and became something of a thrift-store inspiration icon for me.  I could write a whole post on the Ropers elsewhere, but I mention all of this to set up where this is going.

1959 Ford Galaxie. Boystown, Chicago, Illinois. Sunday, February 11, 2024.

Two months ago when I had spotted our featured car, I was walking through the Boystown district of Lakeview in the north side of Chicago.  When I had first moved to this city over twenty years ago and while in my late 20s, I had spent a significant amount of time on weekends in this area, hitting many of these bars for happy hour in the hope of making new friends.  I had this misguided idea before moving to Chicago that Midwestern “niceness” was going to permeate every interaction compared with those in the area of southwest Florida from which I had moved.  It turned out that it wasn’t all that easy to make friends here, and it took time.  I made efforts to look my best, fight against my introverted tendencies, and be social with strangers over (lots of) drinks in the hope of finding a new tribe to which to belong.

1959 Ford Galaxie. Boystown, Chicago, Illinois. Sunday, February 11, 2024.

This strategy, flawed though it was, did eventually work with some lasting friendships formed… along with a side effect of my having developed a stunning tolerance for and increased dependence on alcohol.  Chicago can drink, for those of you who don’t know.  (I’ve been sober for over four years now.)  I can see myself now in my mind’s eye, twenty years younger, wearing my hip, distressed jeans and snugly-fitting graphic t-shirts, looking like every, single, other guy bellying up to the bar.  Fast-forwarding many years from my early Chicago days to last February and a long time after I had spent any significant amount of time in this area, I found myself again walking down North Halsted Street on the way to a hardware store where I needed to purchase some bathroom fittings.  So many places I remember having frequented have disappeared, with entire stretches of former storefronts having been demolished to make way for new developments.

1959 Ford Galaxie. Boystown, Chicago, Illinois. Sunday, February 11, 2024.

It was then while at the corner of Halsted and Roscoe that the sight of this ’59 Ford grabbed me as it sat parked across the street from the 7-Eleven convenience store.  This Galaxie, with its Thunderbird-inspired roofline, epitomized exactly how it felt for middle-aged me to be walking down the street in 2024, in the LGBTQ epicenter of the third-largest city in the United States.  My trendy, clubby, barhopping days are long behind me, even if I will always try to present myself well even if only for me.  This first-year Galaxie wasn’t even trying to blend in with the cars around it, much like the flared, boot-cut jeans I was wearing that day had probably (again) cycled back out of style years ago.  I will always like the looks of the late ’70s, and that’s just how it is.  That era is a happy mental place for me.

1959 Ford Galaxie brochure page, as sourced from www.oldcarbrochures.org.

No, this Galaxie was me, my current self, sitting there at the curb in all of its unabashed, unashamed, unmistakable vintage-ness – aware of where it has been, not necessarily sure of what’s ahead of it, but mostly unbothered about it, either way.  The Galaxie arrived for mid-’59 as a new subseries of Fairlane that featured a Thunderbird-inspired roofline with thick, upright C-pillars and similar ornamental trim.  This example appears to be the pillared, two-door club sedan, of which just over 52,800 were produced in this configuration for the model year, representing 11.4% of ’59 Galaxie sales of about 464,100.  The two-door club sedan was a distant third in Galaxie production that year, trailing the four door sedan (183,100 units) and Victoria hardtop coupe (121,900 units) by a wide margin.  I feel that this car’s period-correct, two-tone Wedgewood Blue and Colonial White paint scheme complements its lines very well.

1959 Ford Galaxie. Boystown, Chicago, Illinois. Sunday, February 11, 2024.

All ’59 Galaxies also wore Fairlane 500 exterior identification.

I have read that aging is generally harder psychologically on women than on men, but that doesn’t seem to apply to queer men, as there seems to be added pressure to stay physically fit and attractive also within that subcommunity.  As for me, this is probably my favorite stage of my entire adult life, which I attribute to a relatively newfound sense of contentment and self-confidence following the implementation of different choices, prioritizing myself instead of looking outward, and (yes) years of therapy.

I have also learned valuable lessons along the way about the strength of diversity among those I count among my closest friends, as I have sought to build my inner circle with all kinds of people from different ethnic backgrounds, orientations, etc., where a mutual appreciation of each other as individuals has been demonstrated and felt.  I feel neither trivialized nor under a microscope for just being me by those I love, and I have just as many straight friends, both male and female, as those who, like me, identify as queer.

1959 Ford Galaxie. Boystown, Chicago, Illinois. Sunday, February 11, 2024.

As I head further into my own Stanley Roper years, I think about how fortunate I am to have found the confidence not to worry about how out of place I may look in comparison to the people, places, and things around me.  It’s not that I don’t care about how I look anymore.  Far from it.  A certain, reasonable amount of care taken in personal presentation can be an outward indicator of self-love, and that’s where my personal journey has continued to lead me.  It’s just that two months ago and like this ’59 Galaxie, I realized I haven’t been hung up on trying to stay hip or current by conventional standards for a very long time.  I’m sure that Veronica, Nadine, and Helen and Stanley Roper would all approve.

Boystown, Chicago, Illinois.
Sunday, February 11, 2024.

Brochure photos were sourced from www.oldcarbrochures.org.  Still of “The Ropers” was sourced from IMDb.